To flirt with a girl is an art form and without knowing how to flirt your social life will be minimal.  You will actually struggle.  When I was growing up, I was in the unenviable position of being the best friend sort of guy to every girl that I took an interest in. It wasn’t that I was not ok looking.

People said I was attractive and couldn’t believe the women weren’t beating a path to my door. It wasn’t even that I wasn’t ready for relationships. In reality I was getting desperate to meet women and start dating. I think the real problem was that I did not know how to flirt with a girl. Even worse than that, I did not know how to tell if a girl was flirting with me!

Steps to Flirt With A Girl:

I think I was the only one who took the advice just be yourself to heart – as this was not working for me. Most of my friends learned to flirt with girls early on. I think for them it was almost through instinct.  Sometimes without even thinking about it, they would take a playful silly tone when they were around girls they were attracted to.

For some reason, I could not pick up how to flirt with a girl my own, so I needed to study it. For a while, I actually started going to bars with friends and watching them flirt with girls. I stopped short of actually taking notes, but you can bet that I was describing everything that was happening to myself in my head. I was actually doing this for weeks before I ever tried to flirt with a girl myself and this is how it went.

Step 1:
It is all in the eye contact you need to first to connect with someone you are interested in.

Step 2:
Once you have looked at her give a smile and then look away briefly, when you look back you will notice that if she is interested she will be looking over at you.

Step 3:
Leave the room; go to the bar or the bathroom and then return.  You should notice that she is looking around trying to see where you are.

Step 4:
Once again, catch her eye but this time you will smile and then walk towards her.

Looking back I think mainly I lacked confidence in my own ability and got all self conscious, I think I must have given off the wrong signals to quite a few attractive girls. I must’ve really seemed like a guy who just wanted to be a good friend.

Ok, so what is the next step I hear you ask?

Step 5:
As you are talking to her watch her body language.  If interested her whole body will turn towards you.  Virtually blocking anyone else out of the conversation, as she wants to concentrate on everything you are saying.

When the time finally came, I was surprised by how natural it felt. The first time I actually set out to flirt with a girl, I ended up with a phone number. I called her the next day, and we went out. It was a lot of fun, and we ended up dating for a little while. She wasn’t really the one for me, but she did help me to build my confidence

I now know a lot of men who don’t know when a woman is flirting.   It seems to go over their heads.  I think women have this inbuilt radar when they can tell if another women are flirting especially if they are flirting with their boyfriend.

For instance when I was at a party the other week I start talking to an interesting women, my girlfriend picked up in moments that the women was trying to make a play for me just through her body language.

She said if a women:

• Flicks her hair a lot
• Laughs at virtually anything that is said to her
• Strokes her neck within the conversation

These entire body signal signs is that she is flirting, I thought that she was just making conversation!

In this day and age no longer do women sit back and wait for a guy to come over, don’t be surprised if the woman approaches you and starts flirting first.  This is a lot easier and I don’t mind a bit.

At least you will know the steps to flirt with a girl and now can pick if a girl is flirting with you!