How to Overcome Shyness? If you are a person that is pretty much out there you may not have a need to read any further or do you? I know in my own case I give the persona that I am outgoing and not got a care in the world.  People would not think for one moment that I would ever need to know how to overcome shyness.  My secret is that I am a fraud and I do get shy and I use the outgoing personality to bluff my way through social situations.

I make myself overcome the shyness but at times when I am not the laugh of the party and making wise and witty comments and I have a quiet moment (or really a true me moment) I will have people come up and ask if I am alright.  I have been hiding under this disguise from friends for ages so much so I never let my guard down to let the real me surface.  This is my defence and when I would be invited out as a good time girl and the person to get the party moving and shaking I was hoping that I would meet no one that would chip away at me and show the shy side of me.

Since I am the master of disguise I will share with you the tips that have helped me brave a being a shy person in social situations.

 Tips on How to overcome shyness:

• Firstly, if I am invited somewhere to meet new people I will ask the host a little about those that are attending. 
• I mentally take notes on key things such as where they work, which side of town they live on etc etc
• This information helps me to prepare mentally for the meeting as the biggest fear a shy person will have is having nothing to talk about – well it was for me anyway.

You can really apply these steps to any work or social situation by finding out a little background which it will make you feel at ease when entering a room for the first time, make your way to the host and get them to introduce you until you have come across the person you know something about.  This way you can start the conversation with (Host name) said that you do x type of work that sounds interesting tell me a little about it.

Take control of a situation ask a question – use the persons name in conversation and by asking a question it is their turn to talk.  Let’s face it all people love to talk about themselves.  It is a subject that we are most comfortable with!

With how you overcome shyness is really how you are raised, for instance if you are around bubbly charismatic, outgoing people, then you have a good chance of having this type of personality rub off on you as well.  Now, if you are from a family where one or two parents were shy or in my case very strict we were encouraged not to talk unless we were spoken to and unfortunately I carried this demeanour with me into my adult years until I worked out how to overcome shyness.

Now my dear friends, I hope you to will know how to overcome shyness enough to get you through meeting people or any social activities!